The first eight years of her marriage, Tiffany Dufu had a beautiful home to go along with her brilliant career raising money to advance women and girls. She did most of the work around the house, but being Type A, she was okay with that.
“It was my dirty secret,” says Dufu, now chief leadership officer at Levo, a professional network for Millennials, and a launch team member of Leanin.org. “As a feminist whose life’s work is to raise women to higher levels of leadership and non-traditional roles, I would come home and turn into a Stepford wife, trying to manage everything impeccably.”
But then she had her first baby—and perfection took a backseat to practicality. “I was physically exhausted just getting back to work,” Dufu recalls. It took three years (and a second baby) for her to figure out a new M.O. that kept her focused on what she needed to do and guilt-free for not doing the rest, and another four years (and what she calls a “Tiffany Epiphany”) to realize that a lot of professional women could use what she figured out.